Category Archives: Connection & Belonging

God’s Vigil

What do you do when the heavens seem silent? Few challenges are so hard that they can’t be made worse by having to face them alone. When you feel bereft of God’s responsiveness to your, the painful loneliness can penetrate your bones. In this follow-up video to my earlier ... Continue Reading ›

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God’s Claustrophobia & A Crisis of Faith

This post is for anyone who feels they no longer “fit” in some vital part of their life. Even if you’re ambivalent about religion or spirituality (I’ll be relating my experience with surviving a crisis of faith)—or even if your experience of ... Continue Reading ›

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You Can Do Hard Things

When my oldest son was perhaps only four years old, he’d sometimes complain about how I’d asked him to do something “too hard.” To his four-year-old sensibilities, my request for him to put his toys away or to please put his pants on before going out in public must have ... Continue Reading ›

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Fatherhood Fraud or Bona Fide Dad?

Grouchy Dad A few days ago my family returned from a vacation to California. Our boys are old enough now that they’re out of diapers, don’t need us to plan our schedules around nap-time, and only fight with each other, run into the street, or climb on things they’re not ... Continue Reading ›

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Expanding Your Open, Broken Heart

As I explored in my previous post, opening yourself to resonate with another’s pain is a risky endeavor—when you stop avoiding or fixing, and really open your heart to someone’s pain, you’re going to feel it. You’re going to hurt too. But as you courageously open yourself ... Continue Reading ›

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Opening Your Closed Heart

For all of the beauty and wonder that surrounds us, life also has unavoidable pain and difficulty. Even apart from my therapy practice, I don’t have to look far to find people experiencing pain in their lives. A friend of mine, a young father, recently finished chemotherapy ... Continue Reading ›

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Reawaken

The burdens of life press in on me. The responsibilities of parenting and marriage, work and finances can keep me running from one task to another, leaving me exhausted and distracted. A short time ago, my children rescued me from the dreary landscape of obligation, and ... Continue Reading ›

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